• Mindfulness,  Uncategorized,  What is Therapy

    The well trodden paths of the mind.

    She hands me an old A5 notebook. Other than the yellowing of its pages, it’s surprisingly un-weathered by time.   She is smirking at me as if there is something hidden somewhere inside it. I page through it, taking a while to recognise myself in the handwriting. A page is dated Wednesday, 15th May 1997; notes from a lecture at Wits University on Buddhism. This was probably my first real introduction to Buddhist thought. I can recall the feeling of “this is making sense to me”; of thoughts I had already had finding a home in what the lecturer, Rob Nairn, was saying. Not too many pages later and I find…

  • Relationships,  What is Therapy

    Relationships are Therapy: Part2 #Accountability

    My father gassed himself in his car one night. I only found out the following morning but I knew exactly how he did it. I knew because the first time he tried it I must have been only 10 years old. He had left the house in a tantrum that night and, by chance, I heard the motor of his car still running in the garage. In those days, BMW’s had a very distinct hum to them. I tried to open the steel roller door of the garage but it had been locked from the inside. So I ran to call my mother who managed to open it with a…