“I think you’re very fluid with your boundaries!” That’s what my last therapist told me, his eyes following mine as I tried to look away, him steadily patting the miniature pinscher on his lap.   At first I wanted to take it as a compliment but the emphasis on “very” made me realise that he actually meant “overly”. Boundaries are one of psychology’s pet ideas (and a bit of an ankle biter for some of us).  My therapist at the time was the quintessentially boundaried therapist – the one that sits across from you, nodding his poker face back at you, asking “But, how does that make you feel, Jason?”  And, no matter how irritated…