• Post-modern Therapy,  Uncategorized

    Not-Eating-Campaigns

    Terms like anorexic are problematic for me.  The term itself is not particularly descriptive of the individual’s experience and seems to give the problem the permission to be there – “If I am an anorexic, then I can behave like one”.  I prefer to consider clients who are involved in not-eating rituals as supporting a “not-eating-campaign” in their lives.  Often this campaign is designed to achieve certain ends.  Such clients tend to have an ambiguous relationship with not eating.  On the one hand, deeply involved and attached to not-eating rituals and on the other hand, tormented by this constant struggle.  The lives of such clients are largely dictated by a…

  • Uncategorized,  What is Therapy

    The Language of Psychology

    I have come to understand that our thinking is influenced (often in ways that we don’t recognise) by certain “cultures of understanding”.  One of these “cultures of understanding” is psychology itself.  In my conversations with people about their problems, I have begun to witness how ‘psychology’ seems to have influenced us into thinking that if we just chastise ourselves enough then we will “get better”.   As an undergrad student, each time I learned a new pathology, with strange excitement I would point out all the traits I had that approached mental illness.  Somehow, pointing out my own pathos to myself became, what I believed to be at the time, a…

  • Uncategorized,  What is Therapy

    What is “Therapy”

    What is Therapy? Anyone who believes that they have a definitive answer to this question is most probably lying.  I am sure that I am not the first person to say that therapy comes in as many forms as there are therapists.  Therapy, for me, is about having conversations that are aimed at understanding the influence of problems on a person’s life.  Understanding the “fabric” of a problem: where it came from; how we were introduced to it; to what memories, people and places it is connected; what keeps it in place and what supports its influence in our lives.  This puts us in a position where we are more likely…