it is me who learns

Over more than a year, I have been having conversations from time to time with a deeply committed couple.  The two of them actively engage with each other (and their individual self’s) on an intellectual, emotional and spiritual level.  The last time we met, something about the conversation (that I cannot recall) led me to…

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my fetish

I must confess of my chief fetish: I cannot resist the impulse to buy books.  The inclination to read them seldom lasts and if it does, I seldom find the time or patience to read them in their entirety, but despite this rational voice in my head, a book with an appealing title will call…

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I, reluctant Freudian

I, reluctant Freudian Freud, reluctantly postmodern It is part of my post-modern identity to distinguish the kind of therapy that I do from that of more traditional forms, especially psychoanalysis. However, if I am really honest with myself, Freud’s vocabulary is so imbedded in the language of psychology that I might often be using it without…

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Madness! In me or upon me?

I have more recently come to respect the idea of mental illness.  It does seem possible that we can become involved and even stuck in lasting patterns of deeply destructive thought, behaviour or realities. It also seems possible that pharmacological support for such difficulty can be helpful.  Furthermore, I must confess that I have even…

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Not-Eating-Campaigns

Terms like anorexic are problematic for me.  The term itself is not particularly descriptive of the individual’s experience and seems to give the problem the permission to be there – “If I am an anorexic, then I can behave like one”.  I prefer to consider clients who are involved in not-eating rituals as supporting a…

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The Language of Psychology

I have come to understand that our thinking is influenced (often in ways that we don’t recognise) by certain “cultures of understanding”.  One of these “cultures of understanding” is psychology itself.  In my conversations with people about their problems, I have begun to witness how ‘psychology’ seems to have influenced us into thinking that if…

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