The Art of Procrastination

The Sullen Art of Procrastination | The Tao of Fear Procrastination said: In sum, the method of doing things perfectly is— If you try and do not succeed Fear trying ever again. If you try and only partially succeed Fear that failure over again. If you try and you succeed Fear achieving this once again.…

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Cohabitation- From perfect strangers to living imperfectly

In the 20th century western world it is not uncommon for 2 perfect strangers to meet in a bar and in no time at all, find themselves sharing a flat in suburban JHB. Up until more recently, the ‘heteronorm’ has been for couples to make the commitment of marriage before co-habiting. In fact, I could…

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credicide

I came across a curious word the other day–credicide. The death of belief. Not this or that one but all and every. Strictly speaking, of course, it means the active killing of belief rather than just its simple demise. Some dark agent has been out mugging belief in the night, jumping it, slicing it up…

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an unexpected conversation with ‘grief’

Working with grief is not necessarily considered one of my specialisations.  But, when you work with people’s life experiences on a daily basis, grief becomes an inevitable theme in many of your conversations.  A young woman has been meeting with me for several weeks and, from time to time, the subject of her father’s death…

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Temple to the human spirit

Every Monday I work at Netcare Rehab, a hospital for post-injury rehabilitation. It is a place where many lives have been shattered by sudden and unexpected tragedy. People’s lives are brought to a literal standstill through stroke or injury. Cold corridors link rehab units, filled with dedicated therapists, to wards of scattered beds, populated with…

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it is me who learns

Over more than a year, I have been having conversations from time to time with a deeply committed couple.  The two of them actively engage with each other (and their individual self’s) on an intellectual, emotional and spiritual level.  The last time we met, something about the conversation (that I cannot recall) led me to…

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