an unexpected conversation with ‘grief’

Working with grief is not necessarily considered one of my specialisations.  But, when you work with people’s life experiences on a daily basis, grief becomes an inevitable theme in many of your conversations.  A young woman has been meeting with me for several weeks and, from time to time, the subject of her father’s death…

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it is me who learns

Over more than a year, I have been having conversations from time to time with a deeply committed couple.  The two of them actively engage with each other (and their individual self’s) on an intellectual, emotional and spiritual level.  The last time we met, something about the conversation (that I cannot recall) led me to…

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I, reluctant Freudian

I, reluctant Freudian Freud, reluctantly postmodern It is part of my post-modern identity to distinguish the kind of therapy that I do from that of more traditional forms, especially psychoanalysis. However, if I am really honest with myself, Freud’s vocabulary is so imbedded in the language of psychology that I might often be using it without…

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Madness! In me or upon me?

I have more recently come to respect the idea of mental illness.  It does seem possible that we can become involved and even stuck in lasting patterns of deeply destructive thought, behaviour or realities. It also seems possible that pharmacological support for such difficulty can be helpful.  Furthermore, I must confess that I have even…

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The Language of Psychology

I have come to understand that our thinking is influenced (often in ways that we don’t recognise) by certain “cultures of understanding”.  One of these “cultures of understanding” is psychology itself.  In my conversations with people about their problems, I have begun to witness how ‘psychology’ seems to have influenced us into thinking that if…

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What is “Therapy”

What is Therapy? Anyone who believes that they have a definitive answer to this question is most probably lying.  I am sure that I am not the first person to say that therapy comes in as many forms as there are therapists.  Therapy, for me, is about having conversations that are aimed at understanding the influence…

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